Are you new to the BDSM Community or just don’t know what to get to build your own kink stater kit? Listed below are some of the best and basic starters any new kinkster would love. But first, let start off on what is BDSM?

BDSM, stands for bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism. The most important message to remember every time you engage in a scene, make sure that is Safe, Sane and Consensual. Without these three aspects, the play is not BDSM, nor safe. Once you find a partner or want to engage in solo play, there are endless types of dynamics that can be created in a kink scene. (Below are a list of basic BDSM terms.) No matter what fetishes, kinks, or roles you like to play, I can guarantee there is a toy for YOU.

BDSM Terms:

  • Top/Dominant: Partner who performs or controls the activities.
  • S/M: Sadism (Loves to give Pain) and Masochism (Pain Lover)
  • Bottom/Submissive: Partner who receives or is being controlled.
  • B/D: Bondage and Discipline
  • D/s: Dominance and Submission
  • Switch: One who switches between roles.

Now let’s get into the naughtier bits! The toys!


B0738F40-091C-44C8-B038-E5B27F81B385 My Beginner Kink Kit:

  • Black Faux Leather Flogger
  • Black Soft Cotton Bondage Rope 🧡
  • Black Ball Gag ✨
  • Stainless Steel Pinwheel 🧡
  • Stainless Steel Nipple Clamps

(You can find my other toys here: My Toy Box)

My beginner BDSM kit features an item for anyone who identities as a bottom, masochist, rope rigger, domme, etc.

61DAAB61-6FCD-4177-AEDE-2682F2EDD500 Black Faux Leather Flogger

I bought this flogger off my favorite online sex toy retailer – Spectrum Boutique. This the perfect flogger for someone who wants a light introduction to impact play. It’s inexpensive, faux leather, light weight, easy to handle for the giver and receiver. It’s a must have for sensual kink and light impact play.


Black Soft Cotton Bondage RopeDCB37ED3-486A-4D43-A31A-B47317D61D4A

I bought a set of 3 black soft cotton rope from Amazon. Now I will say that I don’t recommend buying sex toys from retailers like Amazon – but basic kink items are easier to get away with. This has been perfect for me, and has helped me teach myself self bondage. Any sadist and masochist would love it, even for a little play in the bedroom. It was inexpensive, great material for beginning, I highly recommend.

4338784D-E269-48BF-A6A7-31EA670156EDBlack Ball Gag

Ball gags are some of my favorite toys to have. Nothing like being made to physically keep quite while being used. (I need to grow my collection!) Like the rope this was bought through Amazon. This a basic silicone ball gag, attached to faux leather belt.


66481357-706F-42D0-8DA6-ABD67C3838BDStainless Steel Pinwheel 

If you are a lover of pain and the sensation of sharp objects, I HIGHLY recommend giving this a try. My partner instantly fell in love with it. A pinwheel is a stainless steel It was inexpensive as well, bought through Amazon and is very easy to clean.


Stainless Steel Nipple Clamps

(Not Pictured) Nipple clamps are another toys I would recommend if you are a sadomasochist. Not everyone can handle the sensation or pain on the nipple. I had a pair of stainless steel nipple clamps, that had a rubber covering . They were bought on Amazon.

I hope that this list of basic and inexpensive kink/BDSM toys will help ease you into the scene and enhance your sexual pleasure.

 All of the toys mentioned were already mine and were not sent to my by any company.  These are my honest opinions. 


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